Relationships, Attachment & Bonding

Is your relationship feeling stuck?

Have you experienced a relational wound?

Are you experiencing loneliness despite being in a relationship?

Do you argue in circles with your partner without a meaningful resolution?

Are you experiencing your relationship is taking more from you than it gives?

Do you want to improve your relationship?

The relationships in your life play a key role in your happiness, emotional wellbeing, and mental health. They energise us and build confidence to try new things or to take healthy risks such as in our career, study, new hobbies or life adventures. They provide a safety net we can return to, be comforted and recharge when things in life don’t go to plan. 


The Counselling Clinic Relationship Counselling

In the real world, daily pressures, invisible walls of communication, anger, finances and intimacy issues can all create challenges, in even the strongest, happiest relationships.

When they are off balance they can cause pain, loneliness, or stress. This can result in anger or arguments in trying to get our needs met or even just understood, or sometimes even worst, it leads to silence and a sense of isolation.

A bond with a partner can be the most rewarding, yet challenging part of your life. Achieving and maintaining relationship satisfaction and harmony requires constant work, commitment, and reciprocated compromise.

Relationships that you and your loved ones experienced during childhood shape the patterns you experience in your adult communication, attachment and bonding habits. Very often, you won’t appreciate just how deep these roots might go. Psychotherapy plumbs those depths, finds the root cause and works to improve your foundational relationship patterns for both now and into the future.

Counselling for Couples: Why and How?

A brief online search reveals many therapy possibilities for couples: couples group therapy, relationship assistance and even sexual guidance. Do you need such assistance? The answer depends on the relationship challenges you’re facing and your goals.

Couples Therapy or Marriage Counselling can accomplish the following:

  • Improved communication
  • Productive conflict resolution
  • Awareness & resolution of behaviour patterns that cause relationship problems
  • Refreshed emotional connections
  • Heal current or past relational wounds (such as broken trust)
  • Strengthen relationship commitment
  • Improve intimacy and sexual satisfaction

The Principles of Couples Counselling

Couples Counselling will identify the root causes of your relationship problems and offer both short and long-term solutions to heal and strengthen couples’ bonds. The Counselling Clinic specialises in relationship assistance and bases its approach on the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is based on theories of adult attachment and emotional bonding. It aims to increase security, closeness and connection in intimate relationships. An EFT Couples therapist observes the dynamics between clients in the therapy setting and helps direct new conversations and interactions based on more honest feelings. EFT understand that conflict in intimate relationships is complex and often caused by an individual’s personal history, emotional pain and/or misunderstandings, leading to feelings of insecurity and mistrust in their relationship. These underlying feelings of mistrust or dissatisfaction tend to lead to negative behaviours and responses towards one’s partner, triggering a cycle of negative patterns of interaction and misunderstanding.


The process will encourage you to look at your current emotional issues and you may discover deeper past feelings and vulnerabilities that are blocked by the more immediate emotions such as anger or avoidance/withdrawal you may experience in your current relationship. You will learn to express core emotions in a way that will help you connect, rather than disconnect with your partner. You will learn new ways to listen and stay attuned to another’s emotions and discover more productive ways to respond to emotional situations. You may find this method a beneficial approach, as it can help people better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives.

Several features may distinguish our approach from other therapies. These include an exploration and discussion of the full range of a client’s emotions; ways that we seek to avoid upsetting thoughts and feelings; recurring themes and patterns in our relationship or more generally in our lives; past experiences, particularly as they affected psychological development; interpersonal relationships; and importantly, share in each other’s goals, hopes, wishes and dreams.


  • Healing relational wound
  • Change unhelpful behaviours or patterns
  • Improve communication between partners
  • Decrease emotional avoidance or heightened expression
  • Enhance emotional bonding
  • Emphasise relationship strengths
  • Build intimacy and closeness

Throughout the process, you will learn about yourself, and an awareness of the role of your own past plays as well as that of your partner. This knowledge can open your eyes to how and why you both get stuck, to value what you’ve managed to build together and what can be improved in the future.

The experts at the Counselling Clinic are here to help you make your relationships stronger and happier. Start becoming a closer couple today. Contact us on the form below to organise an appointment or call 02 6294 8013 to schedule your first appointment.

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The Counselling Clinic was conceived to make in-depth counselling and psychotherapy services benefits known and easily accessible and available to the broader community.

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The Counselling Clinic
12 Wootton Crescent
Gordon Canberra
ACT 2906